Posts Tagged ‘The Fertile Soul’

Body Wisdom

Tuesday, December 6th, 2011

“There is more reason in your body than in your best wisdom.”  – Nietzsche

Did you know you have more neurotransmitters in your gut than in your brain?

Did you know that the mircrobes in your intestinal tract alter the functioning of your mind? Your body is not separate from your mind.

Neuroscientist Antonio Damasio writes, “The mind is embodied, not just embrained.” The body, as Candace Pert states, is the subconscious mind.  It stores every emotion and experience you’ve ever had. It especially holds onto the ones you most want to suppress.

When we heal the body, we heal the mind, and vice versa. Most women come to my care completely disconnected from their body and their fertility. They think something is wrong with their bodies that their brains need to figure out. Yet never once has anyone healed herself through learning more information. Every single one has had to go right into the embodied mind, below the neck.

We practice an amazing process called body wisdom, where we actually allow the body to tell you what’s wrong and what it needs. Its answers don’t come in the form of “I need more 7-keto DHEA supplementation”, but more like, “There is a deep ache in my lower belly that is holding so much sadness.” And what it wants most is to be held by your attention.

Listen to your body. Pay attention to every part. Bring your awareness from the cerebral cortex into the heart, the belly, and the pelvis. And into every single part that you have neglected.

*NEW Guided Meditation with Dr. Randine Lewis

Monday, November 28th, 2011

Resetting the Hypothalamic-Pituitary-Ovarian Axis
Utilizing the Microcosmic Orbit & Stress Reduction Meditation

by Randine Lewis
Background Music by Pat Clemens

The entire reproductive system operates via a state of relaxed receptivity. Usually, however, during our waking state, we occupy a more clenched internal state, which does not allow our reproductive energies to flow freely. It all begins at the hypothalamus. In this 46 minute meditation set to the soothing music of Pat Clements, Dr. Lewis guides you through an inner body process which allows the hypothalamic pituitary ovarian axis to reset itself from a state of resistance and stress to open receptivity. This meditation may be utilized throughout the entire menstrual cycle, and during medically assisted reproductive procedures.

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The Pain of Wanting

Monday, November 21st, 2011

When one is challenged with their ability to bring forth life, there are two pains – the anguish of being unable to conceive, and the pain caused by the unfulfilled desire itself.

The pain from the fertility challenge can be eased by any means that brings one closer to the hope of it’s fulfillment. But even a child cannot remedy the pain of the wanting. A child may not be granted; or one may be blessed with a  child in numerous ways.

After bearing two children in her forties, a  very wise friend, fellow Fertile Soul sister, and therapist admitted in her own journey, “My children didn’t cure my infertility.” she noticed the ongoing pain of the wanting itself was still causing her suffering, although now she didn’t have the lack of a child to place it on. The same was true for me and many other mothers I know.

If we can ease the pain of wanting during the fertility struggle, it alleviates the stress of the journey many-fold.  When the stress has been reduced, the physical imbalances are much easier to rectify. When we can identify and treat the causes of the physical imbalance with Chinese medicine, the reproductive system can right itself, and become fertile. But when the stress of the unfulfilled desire remains, liver qi stagnation predominates, and still obstructs conception.

Easing the pain of wanting is not the same as not wanting. That would be denial. Desiring a child is present, and projected into the future as the believable story, “a child will make me happy.”

Here is the remedy: simply notice and feel fully, what happens to you when you don’t get what you want. Can you feel the internal clench around this? The fear, the frustration and the anguish? There is no stress in “I want a child.” it is a beautiful and strong desire. The stress comes with the next movement of the mind, “What if I don’t get a child?” This movement causes an internal clench that places one in panic mode. Stress hormones predominate, and makes conception physiologically improbable.

1) Notice and claim the desire.
2) Notice what happens when you project this desire into a future of scarcity. Don’t suppress this feeling, just watch it in process.
3) Allow yourself to rest and breathe this relaxation throughout your body.

Allow the wanting. See what happens when you carry the wanting into a stressful story of what you might not have in the future. Shine the light of your own awareness on this process, and feel its effects in your body. Become aware of the fact that right now, you can be at ease with the beauty of the desire. That’s it.

An Opening for Sadness

Friday, August 27th, 2010

One of the most poignant moments in all my years of coaching women through this incredible journey of infertility, was when I gave a woman permission to be sad.  When I said the words “it is okay to be sad”, I could actually feel their relief over the phone.   The relief of giving up the battle of what she felt versus what she thought she was supposed to do.  For her, being given permission to be authentic with herself was an amazing gift and the gratitude was palpable.

 In this culture, we are taught that when we fall, we just brush off our knees, get up and go back into the fray.  This is practical for many things in life, such as sports or our professional lives.  But in our attempts to create the child we so desire, it does not allow the ebb and flow that is innate with this process, just like in nature with the rise and fall of the moon and the tides.  There is a time for movement and a time for stillness.  Within that stillness we can feel what we need to feel, to process what needs processing, or to discern and receive the lessons or jewels within. 

 Why do we need to allow ourselves to fully feel the sadness or the loss?  Because it exists.  It simply is.  Not honoring the sadness or loss allows this energy of emotion to get stuck in our bodies.  Some say this is where all dis-ease starts – the blocking of energy when we want ebb and flow. 

Some of the clients I work with are fearful of allowing the sadness or loss to fully engage in their heart – they feel it might be unbearable.  But the opposite is true.  Holding in those feelings suffocate the heart energies, and make us feel isolated and fearful.  Fully feeling the sadness allows it to pass–  to move out of the body!  And make space again for hope.

Blessings on your journey.

Michelle Galatoire