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Happy Chinese New Year!
Free Conference Call Next Monday
The Basics of Fertility Enhancement
Q&A with Dr. Randine Lewis
Monday January 30th at 7 p.m. EST
I strongly believe that even just finding out about The Fertile Soul has a powerful, ripple, helpful effect, especially for those who cannot travel, but who nevertheless read – and listen– ask questions, wonder, benefit, and grow, grow, grow. L.H.
I am looking forward to a rich retreat in January, where we will focus on aging, overwhelm, and turning into the wellspring of deep inner guidance. In this inner sanctuary there is no aging or overwhelm. When we can reside in this place, a more fertile response to life is possible, which of course, is reflected in our reproductive response. Our New York session filled up quickly, but we do have openings in February in my hometown of Asheville, NC, February 17-20th, where our focus will expand to include welcoming in the year of the Dragon, a powerful and dynamic expression of the Chinese New Year. We will use this power to deeply connect with the life-giving source within. I love witnessing the power of retreat participants as they learn to live the miracle!
We will also offer a free conference call on Monday, January 30th at 7 p.m. EST. I will go over some fertility basics and open the call up to your questions and answers. I hope you will be able to join us – whether you are new to the Fertile Soul or have already embraced this process. I look forward to connecting with you.
To Join in dial 605-475-4000 then access code 794774#. Those calling from Canada should call 805-360-1075 and then you will be prompted to enter the original number and access code.
“There is more reason in your body than in your best wisdom.” – Nietzsche
Did you know you have more neurotransmitters in your gut than in your brain?
Did you know that the mircrobes in your intestinal tract alter the functioning of your mind? Your body is not separate from your mind.
Neuroscientist Antonio Damasio writes, “The mind is embodied, not just embrained.” The body, as Candace Pert states, is the subconscious mind. It stores every emotion and experience you’ve ever had. It especially holds onto the ones you most want to suppress.
When we heal the body, we heal the mind, and vice versa. Most women come to my care completely disconnected from their body and their fertility. They think something is wrong with their bodies that their brains need to figure out. Yet never once has anyone healed herself through learning more information. Every single one has had to go right into the embodied mind, below the neck.
We practice an amazing process called body wisdom, where we actually allow the body to tell you what’s wrong and what it needs. Its answers don’t come in the form of “I need more 7-keto DHEA supplementation”, but more like, “There is a deep ache in my lower belly that is holding so much sadness.” And what it wants most is to be held by your attention.
Listen to your body. Pay attention to every part. Bring your awareness from the cerebral cortex into the heart, the belly, and the pelvis. And into every single part that you have neglected.
Resetting the Hypothalamic-Pituitary-Ovarian Axis
Utilizing the Microcosmic Orbit & Stress Reduction Meditation
by Randine Lewis
Background Music by Pat Clemens
The entire reproductive system operates via a state of relaxed receptivity. Usually, however, during our waking state, we occupy a more clenched internal state, which does not allow our reproductive energies to flow freely. It all begins at the hypothalamus. In this 46 minute meditation set to the soothing music of Pat Clements, Dr. Lewis guides you through an inner body process which allows the hypothalamic pituitary ovarian axis to reset itself from a state of resistance and stress to open receptivity. This meditation may be utilized throughout the entire menstrual cycle, and during medically assisted reproductive procedures.
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When one is challenged with their ability to bring forth life, there are two pains – the anguish of being unable to conceive, and the pain caused by the unfulfilled desire itself.
The pain from the fertility challenge can be eased by any means that brings one closer to the hope of it’s fulfillment. But even a child cannot remedy the pain of the wanting. A child may not be granted; or one may be blessed with a child in numerous ways.
After bearing two children in her forties, a very wise friend, fellow Fertile Soul sister, and therapist admitted in her own journey, “My children didn’t cure my infertility.” she noticed the ongoing pain of the wanting itself was still causing her suffering, although now she didn’t have the lack of a child to place it on. The same was true for me and many other mothers I know.
If we can ease the pain of wanting during the fertility struggle, it alleviates the stress of the journey many-fold. When the stress has been reduced, the physical imbalances are much easier to rectify. When we can identify and treat the causes of the physical imbalance with Chinese medicine, the reproductive system can right itself, and become fertile. But when the stress of the unfulfilled desire remains, liver qi stagnation predominates, and still obstructs conception.
Easing the pain of wanting is not the same as not wanting. That would be denial. Desiring a child is present, and projected into the future as the believable story, “a child will make me happy.”
Here is the remedy: simply notice and feel fully, what happens to you when you don’t get what you want. Can you feel the internal clench around this? The fear, the frustration and the anguish? There is no stress in “I want a child.” it is a beautiful and strong desire. The stress comes with the next movement of the mind, “What if I don’t get a child?” This movement causes an internal clench that places one in panic mode. Stress hormones predominate, and makes conception physiologically improbable.
1) Notice and claim the desire.
2) Notice what happens when you project this desire into a future of scarcity. Don’t suppress this feeling, just watch it in process.
3) Allow yourself to rest and breathe this relaxation throughout your body.
Allow the wanting. See what happens when you carry the wanting into a stressful story of what you might not have in the future. Shine the light of your own awareness on this process, and feel its effects in your body. Become aware of the fact that right now, you can be at ease with the beauty of the desire. That’s it.
The Fertile Soul is pleased to offer six-week Wellness Tele-Support Groups beginning October 2011. The session will focus on six essential aspects of the fertility journey. Each sixty-minute phone call will include a lively discussion and an opportunity for participants to share and ask questions. Christine Stuart, a Fertile Soul Wellness Consultant, will facilitate the calls.Participants will have access to an on-line forum that will continue after the course ends. Calls will be recorded and distributed to group participants. Each group will be limited to 8 participants. There will be two groups to begin the series and additional groups may be added according to demand.
REGISTRATION IS NOW OPEN: http://thefertilesoul.com/shop/phone/wellness
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What does it mean to be conscious in our fertility efforts when getting pregnant is a challenge?
Being ‘conscious’ is a word that is tossed around a lot of late, so let us take a closer look at the meaning of conscious.
con·scious pronounced [kon-shuhs] adjective
1. aware of one’s own existence, sensations, thoughts, surroundings, etc.
2. fully aware of or sensitive to something
3. having the mental faculties fully active
4. known to oneself; felt
5. aware of what one is doing
When read with the eyes or filter of my in-fertility experience, I realize, in many ways, I was completely unconscious about the way I walked through this journey we call in-fertility. I was aware that I wanted a baby. Prayed for a baby. Needed a baby. Would to anything for a baby. And that was my focus. My world. My mission. And as this acute desire consumed my awareness, all other areas of my life faded outside the scope of this tunneled vision.
So, if the desire for that baby inherently leads our awareness away from our existence, sensation, thoughts, and surroundings that are not fertility related, how can one walk through in-fertility fully conscious?
The answer is as simple as are the answers of similar questions of awareness or enlightenment in other cultures and throughout the religions and traditions and time. It is living in the now. I realize that this might sound ludicrous when one is in the despair of in-fertility. Who wants to be there – in the excrutiating pain of not having that which we most desire/need/crave?
But behind the mind, just below the despair, and in the breath … is now. And when you can reach it, hear it, feel it and embrace it – all is well. After all, what else do we have? The past is done, and does not have to predict our future. Our future is still malleable to our intent and actions. And now is perfect. We can breathe. We can hope. We are okay.
Life & Wellness Coach
Have you ever thought about how many times you think the words ‘I hope’? ‘I hope there is not traffic today’ … ‘I hope I don’t get the flu from my coworker’ … ‘I hope I get pregnant this month’ … or even ‘I hope I get my period so I can keep trying…’
Do any of these thoughts actually create hope? Or create the feeling of hope? Or do these thoughts create more mind chatter – you know, the ‘monkey mind’ – as if the thoughts were just questions to keep the negative thoughts endlessly spinning? Questions answered like: ‘of course there will be a lot of traffic – I live in Houston, ug.’ … ‘I always get sick when anyone sick breathes anywhere near me’ … ‘why would this month be any different than the last one, the last five or the last thirty?’
The hope that we desire to tap into is more than a feeling, more than a fleeting wishful conceptual thought. It is a knowing that anything is possible – with no conditions attached. Now that may be a new concept – unconditional thought. The conditions only make the thoughts spin more. For example, ‘I could get pregnant IF I did everything I am supposed to do (ie. if I get acupuncture, if I take herbs, if I do yoga, if I meditate daily, if I always think positive, if I avoid eating sugar and dairy etc. etc. etc.)’ or if I was ten years younger, if I had married oner, if I hadn’t put my career first….Back to spinning thoughts, yes? And further away from hope. It is almost as if the IF is protection against hoping too much. The insurance, if you will, that we will have recourse if the miracle doesn’t happen. We can blame the sugar, or the gluten or the PCOS or age or something in our past… etc. etc. etc. … After all, it would be just too much to accept that the pregnancy doesn’t come just because.
Once during one of the darker years of my infertility, a social worker said to me that it was just ‘luck of the draw’. This was incomprehensible to me. No, it had to be my fault somehow. Maybe something that I had done that made me undeserving…unworthy. Or something physically wrong inside me that must be fixed. There had to be a reason. It couldn’t be just because. That left me with no recourse. No power. No hope.
I ran across this quote about hope:
Hope transforms pessimism into optimism. Hope is invincible. Hope changes everything.It changes winter into summer, darkness into dawn, descent into ascent, barrenness into creativity, agony into joy. Hope is the sun. It is the light. It is the fundamental force for life’s blossoming.
~ George C. Fraser
This is the hope that transcends all rational thought, all conditions and all fears. This is the hope that I aspire to and sometimes attain and cherish. I never find it in thought. I never find it in questioning. I only find it inside, just under the thoughts and fears, in quiet moments of being. Just being with myself and my breath…just as I am in the present moment, in the now, in this moment. In the moments that I allow all of those thoughts, conditions and fears to melt away, there is room for all things possible.
And in that place, there is hope. The hope which is always available, always there waiting….just under the thoughts, conditions and fears. Hope is yours to know and to own….just because.
I ran across this quote the other day – “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” Anais Nin
What thoughts and feeling does this invoke for you? At this time in your journey? Have you come to that place where the hold of infertility on you – mind, body and spirit – and your life, is so tight that you cannot even imagine what it might look like to let go? To let go of the struggle? To let go of the trying? Or even to let go of the pain?
What is the risk?
We each have our own threshold for pain or struggle. What is important is that we honor ours, and not worry what another’s might be or what another thinks ours should be. Honor your journey by being real with yourself, being gentle with yourself and above all, true to yourself. ALL of your feelings are valid. Only you can discern if those feelings are there to protect you or empower you. Or if they no longer serve you.
The winter solstice is the perfect time to go inward, and to sit with these thoughts and feelings. Allow them all to be seen in the soft moonlight of your awareness. Then open your hands and let out a deep breath. Let go of whatever feels safe to let go of and allow that new space to blossom.
Life & Wellness Coach