Archive for June, 2010

Dr. Randine Lewis is going to Nashville TN

Wednesday, June 30th, 2010

In their continuing Infertility Retreat series The Fertile Soul presents Dr. Lewis at the The Scarritt Bennett Center July 9 through July 12 in Nashville TN.

They are offering their “Foundations Retreat”, The Basics of Chinese Medical Therapeutics.

Dr. Randine Lewis, the author of The Infertility Cure, has become the leading expert in treating infertility conditions naturally. Helping couples Achieve pregnancy through acupuncture and traditional Chinese herbal medicine. Learn more at www.thefertilesoul.com. To learn more about the Nashville TN retreat or to make a reservation click here.

 Intensive retreats are the most immersive and transformative way to learn The Fertile Soul philosophy and approaches and begin experiencing the therapies and incorporating them into your life.

Retreats facilitate deep levels of introspection, awareness and practices conducive to a more fertile life. Our focus is to induce transformative energetic openings in every participant, increasing their fertility.

Retreats are a time and place for restoration. We encourage you to create the space in your life for yourself; even coming a day early or staying a day longer, if possible, as the retreat schedule itself is quite full to make the most of our time together.

Almost to a person, those who attend retreats say the experience exceeds their every expectation – and that it is not one that is easy to put into words, even to their partner. Retreats frequently catalyze personal transformations in ways that other therapies have not been able to.

To learn more about the Nashville TN retreat or to make a reservation click here.

TAKING YOUR LIFE OFF HOLD

Monday, June 21st, 2010

Infertility takes its toll. The harder you try to have a baby, the further away the goal may seem. The Fertile Soul program teaches you to let go of the stress that is keeping you away from your child so you are more likely to conceive.

We all know stories of women who adopt, give up, or stop trying and magically become pregnant. It isn’t that life is just cruel that way; there is a scientific explanation. Our body cannot be in fight mode and receptive mode at the same time! Nature won’t allow it. When we release our grasp and open up to the creative power of all of life, our fertility expands.

The Fertile Soul programs will help you get your life back. We will remind you how to live and love and embrace life again. We will empower you to take charge of your fertility. We will help you get through this challenging period in your life and emerge wiser, joyful and grateful for its lessons.

In the depth of winter, I finally learned that
Within me there lay an invincible summer.
—Albert Camus

We all strive for the miracle of letting life express itself through us. Some of us, however, have to take a different path in order to become mothers. And we may feel like there is something missing: the experience of letting a life develop inside of us, of feeling the first kick, of holding our child the moment it comes into this world, of breast feeding. For whatever reason we have been programmed to believe that motherhood is tied to these sensations. And choosing another route of becoming a mother often starts by grieving the loss of such experiences.

It is our blessing at The Fertile Soul to be able to help most of the women who come to us to conceive and bear healthy children—but not all of them. All of our patients will experience greater health by following the principles and treatments laid out by The Fertile Soul Method™; yet nobody can predict if the spark of life will actually ignite. If there has been too much damage to a woman’s reproductive organs, if she is approaching an age where she no longer has healthy eggs, if she has other medical conditions that preclude her carrying a child to term—even though I may want to, we cannot cure every woman. In some cases our role is more that of a friend and guide, to support women in making difficult choices, and then to help them heal, body and soul.

Not too long ago a young woman came to consult The Fertile Soul because she wanted to go off her birth control pills. She was not married yet and told us she really wasn’t interested in being pregnant right now, but eventually she would like to have a child. However, she had never been able to have her period when not on the Pill. We worked on balancing her hormones, and her spirit, and in the process she noticed that worrying about her fertility was really becoming a problem. She said her fears about infertility were already eating away at her soul. Then she said something quite significant: she told us that perhaps this fear was a valuable insight. “If pursuing my own child is going to tie me up in such emotional knots,” she said, “then perhaps I need to find alternate ways of expressing my motherhood.” It’s a real gift to have somebody reach that kind of insight at the beginning of the journey instead of at the end, instead of being forced to her knees and having to say, “I can’t do this anymore. I give up.”

Letting Our Children Know Where They Fit In

Wednesday, June 9th, 2010

By Randine Lewis, L.Ac., MSOM, Ph.D.

Dr. Randine Lewis is the author of The Infertility Cure.

 Dr. Lewis has become the leading expert in treating infertility conditions naturally.

When I work with women who are reaching the end of their pursuit of natural conception, I counsel them and support them with treatments designed to help them handle their emotions. I also ask them questions like, “Do you think if a child wants to be part of your life that he or she will care where its genetics come from? What do you think is more important in terms of your expressing your motherhood: creating a child who has the genes of your ancestors or giving a child all the love a mother can give?” And, “Are there other ways you can use your maternal energy? Can you give your time to children who are needy? How can you mother in a totally different sense, without it having to be a baby?”

In Chinese medicine, menopause is described as the transition from our reproductive years into the “time of wisdom.” At this point, the energy that has been pouring into our uterus through the Penetrating Meridian is redirected. And since the Pnetrating Meridian connects the Uterus to the Heart, that is where our reproductive energy moves. We change from being mothers of the body to being mothers of the heart, where wisdom resides. Whether we are biological mothers or not, all women have the ability to be mothers of the heart. We can choose to offer our love and maternal energies by creating a family with children, or we can choose to mother children, adults, groups or organizations. Louisa May Alcott once wrote, “…fatherly and motherly hearts often beat warm and wise in the breasts of bachelor uncles and maiden aunts, and it is my private opinion that these worthy creatures are a beautiful provision of nature for the cherishing of other people’s children.” You never know what place you will fill within the universal plan, but I do believe with all my heart that the love that makes us want to be parents was not meant to go to waste. The Tao Te Ching says,

The Tao is called the Great Mother: empty yet inexhaustible,
It gives birth to infinite worlds.
It is always present within you.
You can use it any way you want.

When you become a mother of the heart, you tap into the “Great Mother” that lies within you. That love is always there. And when you offer it to the world in any form, it will never go to waste.

If there is a divine plan and we are placed on this earth to learn and grow, then perhaps the our souls’ lessons are taught through those that are put–and are not put–in our lives. Those we love come and, yes, they go. Some, even those we want most desperately, never come at all. Ultimately, however, we must recognize that the children we want so much and have done so much to bear are not really ours to begin with. As Khalil Gibran wrote:

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with his might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the Archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.

The pursuit of a child is borne of a deep longing of universal life to evolve—and isn’t it rather grandiose of us to believe that we have any control over the requirements of universal evolution? We can only manipulate our physiology; we can’t control the expression of life itself. I believe that for God to breathe life into the developing cells which become fetuses and babies and human beings, harmony must be created in our physical environment, our physiologic condition, our mental, emotional and spiritual state. When these conditions have been met, then we must accept that if we are to become parents, we will.
 
I am reminded of the prayer, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. The things we must accept are our genetic constitution: there are certain aspects of our physical state that are not amenable to change. We cannot change the past and we cannot change anybody else. We can, however, change our health and our environment in the present—what we put into our bodies, how we experience stress, and our mental and emotional states.

We at The Fertile Soul endeavor to help you take control of everything that might possibly help you to have a child. But, after you have done all that you have control over, you must remember to breathe, to recall that you still have this present moment where you can allow life to express itself through you, however it may. This is a courageous stand and not an undertaking for the weak of spirit.

Perhaps the final lesson from our struggle to bear children is to find peace inside ourselves no matter what. I do know that finding that place of peace is the greatest gift we can receive. Those that we love come and go. Some don’t come at all. But no matter what, we are whole and at peace. May you find that place of peace within yourself. May you find happiness. And may that happiness be unconditional.